3 Common School Problems
School is a transition for children, and while it can be an experience of growth and independence, it can also be difficult for children who face certain problems associated with middle school. Knowing what your child might experience or encounter during these years can help you prepare him, and maybe even prevent certain problems from surfacing. As always, knowledge is power. Below are a few typical middle school problems your child may have to face. Make sure your tween knows that whatever his challenges might be, you’ll be there to help, offer advice and work through them together.
As parents, we never want to think that the child we love could behave in such a manner, but even the best kids can mess up. All is not lost. Here are the three most
common school problems your child might be facing this year and ways to get your child back on track.
If truancy is an ongoing issue, you might have to take very rigid tactics and require that your child check in with someone at the school every morning. Ask the school to call you immediately if your child does not show up or if he or she misses even one class.
Let your child know that you still love him or her, but you now have to check up throughout the day to verify their activity. Your child won’t like it, but this is a consequence from his or her own actions. Let your child know that skipping school means he or she has lost all freedom to come and go without checking in.
The hardest part, however, may be finding out why your child isn’t attending school. There are always underlying reasons. It could be something as simple as not
understanding algebra and feeling intimidated. Then again, it may be something as serious as being bullied. If this is the case, you need to take action immediately to
resolve the situation. Start with the school administration and move on from there until you get satisfaction and results.
Behaviors that disrupt the classroom can come from many places. Your child simply may not understand the classwork or even the classroom rules. Perhaps your child
dislikes a teacher. Other children at school may be creating situations which your child doesn’t have the tools to deal with. Problems at home or with friends may be
weighing heavily on your child’s mind. Diet and health may also play a part in a child’s behavior.
These concerns and outside influences are very real and can make your child act out in ways he or she normally wouldn’t. Identifying the trigger is the first step. Watch
your child closely and get the support from your child’s teachers and school administration. Talk to your child and ask the hard questions. You may not like the answers, but it’s important that you learn what’s behind the behavior so you can find a solution.
Problems such as ADD/ADHD or Autism will present special challenges. You will need professional help to handle the special needs in a situation that presents too much
stress. Sit down with your child’s doctor and teacher to set up a plan for when your child gets overwhelmed. For a child with these issues, you will need not only a good
plan but also a solid support system. Disruptive behavior is simply unacceptable no matter what the cause. Learning how to react and respond is part of getting along in
the world. Your job as a parent is to find the tools you need to help your child do just that.
Your child may not succeed in every subject in school, and that is understandable. Perhaps your child excels at math, but geography remains a mystery. Maybe your child is a born public speaker, but history leaves her cold. You have watched your child’s report card through the years and you can see the pattern. That’s normal.
However, when grades start slipping across the board, you’ve got something to watch. When a child who for years has gotten A’s and B’s in math all of a sudden is
getting D’s, you need to look at the situation. If your child is not completing work, is flunking tests, and is going from a good student overall to a failing student, you know there is a problem.
The solution could be as simple as hiring a tutor or spending more time on homework on the subjects he or she is falling off on. If your child is simply less interested in
good grades, he or she may need incentives to study. Perhaps your child has become more interested in video games than in homework. A rewards program for good
grades would be the perfect incentive for a child in this case. Bring your grades up and get time on a video game; let your grades slip, and no more video games. When
grades just don’t seem important, incentives and rewards are a great motivator.
If none of these solutions seem to matter, you may need to call in the experts. Poor grades are an indicator of many things. Eliminating some of the obvious reasons is
the first place to start. If the problem persists, talk to your family doctor, the school counselor, or other trusted professional. At some point, you will need to get to the
bottom of this decline in your child’s grades, no matter how disturbing the answers may be.
For every child of all levels of maturity, and emotional and physical challenges, learning how to respond to outside influences is a part of the educational process. It’s your job to help your child learn how to respond. Coping in school prepares your child for the outside world. Take a few simple steps to ensure that these common problems don’t keep your child from having a wonderful, and successful, school year.