T eaching good manners could seem difficult most times, but it is nonetheless as important as brushing teeth twice a day. And in line with an old saying that children are like sponges as they tend to soak up everything and every influence around them, manners need to be taught, shown, and reinforced by parents and other adults who have authority over the children.
It is every parent’s dreams of raising a polite little child who possesses good manners After all; a child’s behavior is a reflection of the parents. Manners may come to some children while others will struggle to learn good manners.
So, understanding the foundation of good manners will help in teaching your child good manners, this is because good manners are necessary for people to live in peace together. It is believed that good manner is a reflection of a loving and considerate personality. In teaching good manners especially to children, the following tips should be considered and probably adopted.
No doubt, a child’s behavior is seen as a reflection of his parent. So, if you want your child to have good manners, you must make sure you do as well, as the first step to having a child is a mannerly parent.
Teach polite words early
Children adapt quickly to what they see and hear. Words like “please,” “thank you,” “you’re welcome,” and “excuse me” should be used as you interact with people throughout the day. And address your little person with the same politeness you do an adult. This helps the children catch the flavor of polite talk. Though they may not understand the social graciousness of these words at this stage, it takes only while for the toddler to conclude that “please” is how you get what you want and “thank you” is how you end an interaction in appreciation. Planting these social niceties into your child’s vocabulary is necessary as they will be used later with good understanding. Make it a habit asking your toddler to give you something with “please” and always close it with “thank you.” This is because children value these terms and understand their usefulness long before they understand their meaning.
Always make a point of opening each request by using the name of your child. For instance “Kim, will you do this for me?” This helps the children picked up on this social nicety and address the parent by title: “Dad, may I…” or “Mom, would you…” These language tools should be made part of the child social self which helps develop the good manner addressing people politely.
Don’t force manners.
While it’s okay to occasionally tell a child to “say please” before you grant the request, such a rule should not be rigidly applied before you give your child what he wants. This is because language is a skill to be enjoyed, and not forced. Though a child may get tired of these polite words even before he understands them, the child to should be reminded of these nice words as part of good speech, but not as a need for getting what he wants. Teach a child these words with politeness and he’ll catch the idea faster.
All forms of communication with kids should be done politely; this gives them a sense of belonging and responsibility, so they learn faster. Correcting a child politely shows the child that you value him and want him to learn from his mistakes so he becomes a better person. Ever wondered why some children are so polite? The main reason is they are brought up in an environment that expects good manners and they were able to adapt positively.
Get Others on Board
Children are sometimes likely to listen to someone other than you. Often, seek out the support of friends, family, and teachers. And always explain why you want to enforce certain rules and encourage them to point out and practice acceptable manners at all times. For instance, if your child engages in a fight in school have the teacher explain that fighting is a bad habit, let the child understand the grievous consequences of fighting. Whenever my niece visits grandma on holidays, she returns with better manners. What grandma teaches my niece is no different than what she learned at home, but this shows that a different messenger can be more effective than the same one who is heard all the time.
Repetition has always being a key to learning something new, so it’s important to practice good manners again and again. Being persistence, the repetition will pay off, and your child would have incorporated these good habits into his daily life.
We must understand that learning manners are a lifelong education, it doesn’t happen overnight, so it is necessary that you take it slowly. Always acknowledge the child, be patient with the child, learn to coach the child and teach table manners, these tips will go a long way in giving children the good manner needed in the society